Sometimes You Just Have to MOVE ON

One of the hardest things I have had to learn in life is that sometimes the people you have grown accustomed to being around are not the right people for you. Now your family is your family and while you should love them and remember that you only get one set you don't have to hang with them all day everyday either. Most of the other relationships or friendships we form in life are usually based upon things we have in common with others.

If you are like me, you are constantly looking for ways to grow. When I speak of growth I am not only speaking about formal education or financial gain. I mean real growth. Developing a center and growing spiritually. Letting go of resentment or ill feelings about events or circumstances that shaped our past. Developing a regular pattern of personal development and exercise. Identifying the triggers that have held us in a "holding pattern" of negativity and letting them go. Realizing that sometimes saying "no" is the most positive position to hold.

Now inevitably this type of development is going to step on some toes. When you are making strides to develop positive, up building traits and are trying to make yourself whole in every way, there are many of your associates who will immediately take notice. They are just fine with the you that they have come to know and love. They are comfortable with the person that has up until this point reflected the values and traits that mirror THEIR OWN. When you start to align yourself with a different mindset or attempt to develop traits that are not a part of these existing relationships some perceive this as you forgetting where you came from or as you thinking that in some way you are now better than they are. You may even be shot down while trying to SHARE your new path because they are simply not open to the discomfort growth brings.

I think that my experience with divorce as a child made me feel that people who truly care about each other never leave. I had the impression that if you truly loved someone you would endure and hold fast through any storm. I now realize that every relationship has it's "season". Seasons can change due to anything from death to development. It's unfortunate, it hurts, it often severs ties and bonds that have been in place for years or have taken decades to form. However, change and growth bring new relationships and new bonds that will more closely mirror the person you want to be.

The slogan in the bodybuilding world is "no pain no gain". That is a good one for life too.

Rest assured that the people in your life that truly get it will be your biggest supporters. They will encourage you and cheer you on as you blossom into the mature, balanced you. As for the others, sometimes you just have to move on.

Are you considering a career in network marketing or trying to open a homebased business? Looking for a like minded mentor that truly believes ALL growth is good? I would love to see if we are a match. Email me or leave your information here http://www.tatumcapital.com/